We live in a world where separation is a common practice, we seperate difficult jobs at work from easy tasks, we separate work life and home life, we have separate personalities and practices between familiar people and strangers. We do not show ourselves fully until we are accepted, but when you are yourself will you still be part of the group? What is exclusion? I will give you an example, your group of friends go out of their way not to invite you to an evening event. You say nothing and you see pictures posted online of what a great time they had. You feel left out. You feel excluded. In a world that is already so cruel and difficult to meander through, why feel left out also, by people you trust and love. Is it that you really are a burden to them and they don’t actually enjoy your company? Or did they just forget? Which option would you pick?
Personally, feeling excluded happens way more often then I care to admit. It comes to a point where it happens so often, you begin to think, are they malicious and making a point that you are nothing to them? When so much time and effort has been made on your own part to create a friendship/relationship – where was the olive branch to make it mutual. This topic I know for a fact other people go through similar issues on a daily basis, I have learned, that you need to lift your head and say to yourself ‘screw them’. It has taken the bones of six years to learn myself and there are moments that it really gets me down, but I still raise my head and say I deserve better. In the long run, my situation, could end in tears and despair for them in the future if the behaviour continues as I will not want anything to do with them. I am waiting for the olive branch.
Individuality is key to happiness. You cannot change yourself to please others. If you are not truly yourself how can you achieve happiness. If you are excluded because you are yourself, then maybe you are better off leaving the people who exclude you behind in your trail. Let someone new accept you and love you for who yoy really are. True bliss comes from surrounding yourself with good, loving and accepting people who accept you, for you. Be the beautiful rose amongst the weeds. Love yourself and you will find happiness.